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About Hopeless68

Hopeless68 started this conversation
Sep 3, 2009

  I hate doing this, Im  a 41 year old single mom, I have worked sence I was 13 years old. I fell in love with a man and he convinced me to use my student loan to move across country, he made lots of promises and it sounded great. We got here, and for nearly two months he didnt leave the bedroom of the crappy one bedroom weekly rental we were only supposed to be in for two weeks, instead he played online computer games and refused to allow me to put gas in my truck to go look for work. Only after we ran out of my loan and his faimly stopped sending him money did he fineally go out and find work. He still refused to let me go job hunting and rants and raves that i 'wont do anything' to help, but how can i go job hunting without gas in my vehicle and no money for a bus? I have tired all the online job search engines and have found nothing. Now he is laid off for two weeks, which means no income for a month, our weekly rent is due tomorrow and he tells me today that he is moving out tomorrow! I dont know what to do, he has let my vehicle registration and insurance expire and I have no money of my own. Im about to homeless with a 15 year old daughter in las vegas NV. Can anyone please help me?

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Starshine
Sep 7, 2009
 in response to Hopeless68...   

You are welcome very much.

Well we connected now. Sometimes my things don't go thru .I learned not to use envelope but reply under ones statement then post on main board and do a one to one to

Glad to hear from you. keep me posted ,  I love success stories!

I am glad you are getting help!!!!

Stick with it and the best to you

Starshine.

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Hopeless68
Sep 7, 2009
 in response to Starshine...   

very odd, I did receive your last message and replied to it also, I had said that i am in the process of contacting several of the places you suggested, most of which are contigent on approval from the welfare department, which i have to wait to hear from for up to  40 days now, we are just taking one day at a time and im trying everything i can think of, Bless you and thank you kindly.

 

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storm747
Sep 6, 2009
 in response to Hopeless68...   

I try to live by GOD's teaching, there is a qoute in the Bible that says "judge not less they be judge" I try to help my fellow brothers and sisters not condem them, GOD is the only one that will judge them and me I am here to do his work and spread his love. should you ever need someone to talk to or vent to please consider my ears and heart open for you. My prayers will be with you and your daughter.

Linda

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Starshine
Sep 6, 2009

Hi

I sent you this when you came in but I guess you didn't see it -it was a one to one between you and me

 

http://starshine1.aidpage.com/

The above is my blog and no need in hate doing this - you need some kind of help

sorry but good he left 

I posted resources for abused women in your state so check my blog for them and get some help

call 211 try to find a friend to live with till you get back to work

were you married and is he the father then he should pay child support. contact social services in your area

see blog and main page and hang in there

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Hopeless68
Sep 6, 2009
 in response to storm747...    Thank you for speaking up, was wondering if all people on this site were as judgemental as the other one, I am in the process of contacting other agencies such as the ones you mentioned, and i appreciate your advice and thoughtfulness, yes i made mistakes, we all have at some point or another in our lives, and we all should learn from them, I also try not to judge people for the choices they make in their lives, Bless You and i wish you a bright and successful future.
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storm747
Sep 6, 2009
 in response to W H O K N E W...   I think you may have been a little harsh with this lady. I think she realizes that she made a mistake and she knows she has to correct it but she is only asking for help. I for one have made bad choices in my 45 years of life and I have lifed with those choices and have beated myself up for them but to have someone else do it. I feel for this lady, I am sure she is calling herslef all kinds of a foolish women and such but she needs our encouragement to move forward and be strong for her and her daughter.
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storm747
Sep 6, 2009

Hello Hopeless, I am sorry that you were judged by other, I try never to judge as I have made my own mistakes on my life I do not live in Las Vegas but if you need help I would try local churches and food banks,salvation army. I would also see if they have any places for single moms that you and your daughter can go to. I know how it is to be in love with a man that really dosnt help but you have to depend on yourself especially that you have a daughter. I would love to send you something but at the moment I am also laid off with three kids to support so I have no extra money all I can offfer is help in locating and prayer and a good ear to listen to. Try the places that I have recommended and if you need more help let me know and I will see what I can find.

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Hopeless68
Sep 4, 2009
 in response to W H O K N E W...    well for your information OH judgemental one,  I have been dateing him for nearly two years, his personality changed only after we moved across the country, but thank you for you snap judgement and critisim, you think im stupid enough to move across country with a complete stranger? wow.  and as i stated in my blog, i have applied for assistance, which i have to wait 30-45 days before i can even speak with a caseworker, I just love peoples idea of helping someone in a bad situation. Your judgemental self rightous attitude is what causes people to commite suicide every year, I hope your life is perfect and you have never made a bad choice in your life, but reality is what it is and karma is a bitch. Have a wonderful day and thank you so much for your  'help'
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Anonymous
Sep 3, 2009

What you did was stupid, plain and simple. It was probably the most irresponsible thing you could have ever done to your child. You know nothing about this guy, obviously, and yet you packed up your daughter, moved her cross country, to live with a guy you know nothing about!

So now it is time to pull up your big girl panties and get you and your daughter out of this mess you created. 

Go to 211 get yourselves into a shelter and apply for social services. Then find a job and save up enough money to get yourself and you daughter back home. 

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